If water is poured into a glass, it can hold it. But instead of water if tried with stones and gravels these will shatter the glass. Also, it will not be a worthy purpose to try to fill more to an already brim filled glass.
After millions and millions of years of development and evolution in every aspect of human life, sadness has circled almost everyone.
Sharing, which prominently includes saying and listening is the key-mark of emotional side of human needs. Yah torn out relations and failures could be reason for depression, provoking the ending of life. In such a drastic downtime, it is advisable to talk to someone and sharing the thoughts for saving from bad.
Then why an easiest looking way ‘sharing’ is not able to save people.
Because glass cannot bear pouring of stones and gravels and can’t contain more than what its capacity is.
A depressed person is already brutely broken and his state is like mindless stony pieces. He do not know how to express himself to another person who can help properly. Usually, a depressed person bursts into depressing words, tears or in anger.
Whereas evolution of human society’s nature is gregarious with individual entity. This means we adapt to communicate in general and specific as an individual. But it is not as important as donating blood.
A depressed person pours out himself as he thinks that he is utmost critical.
But as a wooden board can hold a nail but cannot withstand a bullet shot. Listener too might be in some state.
Before getting help from someone, the person has to help himself or should be said.. must get help from himself. It is tough in these times but ‘He has to be aware of that he needs help’. This will tell him ‘His level’ before communicating with someone.
We say that everyone have problems of their own. Still we are all here to help each other. We need someone to talk to and we need someone to listen to. And when we share, we must see that we are not coming down hard on other. If he is already up to the brim and you are pouring yourself to him, it will spill. Means, your inner anxiety would not find peace. Instead it might end up in getting a wrong help.
We don’t know how brittle his situation might be. But he is listening to us… so be humble towards him instead of being stone and he will contain you.